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Sleepless

Posted by jenille610 on September 27, 2007

Today was my donor work-up day at UCSF.  Remember I told you that Jason KO’ed after his work-up last week?  Well, I know now why!  After sleeping when I got home, I’m wide awake now.

Wednesday started out by waking up 4am to eat something.  If my last appt was at 2 in the afternoon and I had to fast the whole day, you better know I’d wake up to put something in my stomach.  Not that I get much sleep anyways – between monitoring Chris so that he doesn’t throw up at night from the night feeds to Evan wanting to cuddle to Nate waking up from his nightmares – I’ve mastered not sleeping.  My coworker always jokes wih me that maybe it’s good that I’m Chris’ donor so that I can actually sleep after so long!

I did the lab work – 10 vials of blood last week as well as the drop-in chest x-ray and EKG test.

My first appointment today was the ultrasound test.  As I was waiting, I overheard two adult transplant patients who had follow-up care and I thought to myself, that’d be Christopher!  It amazed me to learn that the woman, who was diagnosed with liver cancer 15 years ago, kept all her eggs in God’s hand.  By this, I mean that God would be the one to show her when it was time.  And I guess God was not ready because she was transplanted in June without any symptoms of liver cancer.  I don’t know how sick she was but she was only on the list for 6 months.  When the surgeons went in, they discovered the cancer was dead.  To make a long story short, she trusted that God would see her through it and He did.

Dan, the ultrasound technician, was the same tech who saw the twins when they were in utero.  So, it was the same method but in this case, we looked at the liver, gall bladder, bladder, etc.  Wish I took anatomy in HS instead of Physics – then I’d know what those internal organs did!

My second appointment was the with one of the physicians for a physical.  We went over any questions I had and my labs.  Labs look good so far.  Phew!

A little light-headed from not eating, my CT scan was the last appointment in which they look at the volumetrics of the liver and the arteries and bile ducts and such.  If you’ve never got a CT scan before like me, it’s a bit scary.  The nurse put an IV in my arm (after missing the first time) and injected a contrast dye into my veins to help the machine locate the arteries.  I told Jason that I almost panicked.  They warned my that I’d get hot all over, get a metallic taste in my mouth, and that I’d have the urge to pee but man, it was overwhelming!  After the first scan, they injected another contrast dye into my veins but at the same time, they gave me Benadryl to calm the body of any reactions.  They scanned me and I was ready to go home drowsy and all.

12 hours of fasting, I met Jason at the Cafeteria and didn’t care about my diet because I had calories to spare anyways.  I indulged in a cheeseburger, curly fries, and corn bread and it was the best meal ever!  I know how Christopher felt when he had to fast the first time.  Not a happy camper!

As of today, we are one step closer to Christopher’s transplant.  I don’t want to expect too much and all I can do is pray that I’m a match for Christopher.

I wanted to thank Nate’s schoolmates at SAIC for the lovely get well cards for Christopher.  It was a nice surprise when I got home today from a long day.  Those kids are so sweet with their messages of love and prayer!  SAIC is also throwing an ice cream social for Christopher next week and I’m touched that the community has our back.

So, even though God isn’t telling me directly, He reminds me that, through various avenues, He is guiding us through our transplant journey as well.

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Expectations…

Posted by jenille610 on September 24, 2007

I have the rest of my donor work-up on Wednesday and I’m scared to find out the results.  We were so optimistic about Jason’s donor work-up only to have it unravel so fast.  It’s been a long, long journey and we were just hoping for a break.  What happens when the sub can’t play for the all-star?

Throughout this fundraising experience, I’ve learned a lot.  I’ve learned to not expect anything (and Cecilia gently reminded me) – people volunteer their time, donate their money and support our events from the kindness of their hearts.  They check-in with you to see how you’re doing, offer kind words of prayer, send that email card to cheer up your day.  They print your story in the paper even though stories like Christopher’s aren’t “newsbreaking.”  They throw an event for you even though they don’t know Christopher.  They volunteer their time because they care.  Whether you know them since you were five or if they’re a complete stranger, these people are compassionate to your cause.  No questions asked, I’m here for you.

The only person in my shoes is me and whatever comments people have thrown our way is not taken to heart because only I know what it feels to be me.  I’m the one being pulled in all directions; I’m the one dealing with the stress; I’m the one who will do anything to save her baby.  This is the card I was dealt so I’m playing it poker-faced as usual not knowing what could unfold.

God gave me a sick child because he knew I could handle it.  I’m constantly reminding myself that God doesn’t give you something you can’t handle.  With it, God gave me the best support system one could have in my husband, my family, friends, and random strangers.  I know I’m not doing it alone because God, Jason, my family and friends are guiding me through.

Like I said, this fundraising experience has been an eye-opener to what compassion the human race is capable of.  So even if I’m exhausted after each event, I know that there are a handful of volunteers, my friends, who are tired with me and who are rooting that my son, Christopher, gets his second chance.

Thank you for taking time to visit our website.  Thank you for your support.  Thank you for helping a friend in need.

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Thanks for supporting at Affinity and Dinner with Christopher!

Posted by jenille610 on September 21, 2007

It’s been a busy week…we found out that Jason would need a liver biopsy only to have him become disqualified as Christopher’s donor. Next on the list, me. Jason and I agreed that he would be Christopher’s first potential donor and if that didn’t pan out, it’d be me next.

I started my testing this week and it’s been no easy feat: work, Christopher’s appointments, Nate and Evan, trying to lose my weight, and on top of it all, fundraising! I’m surprised Jason and I are still employed. I’m surprised I have energy to write this blog!

Anyways, I just wanted to thank everyone who supported Christopher at “Affinity,” our hip-hop event at 111 Minna hosted by Distortion 2 Static last Friday. Special thanks to Aries and Ariel for rallying behind us and getting the event together. Thank you to Zion I, Jern Eye, J-Billion, Emassin, and all the DJs who performed – I wasn’t a fan (didn’t know them) until that night and I have the most respect for them. It really means a lot to us to have the community have our back. D2S gave us the cover and from the cover and donation boxes, we brought home about $1,700.

I also wanted to thank everyone who came out to Dinner with Christopher at Epiphany Church on Sunday. We were scared that no one would show and that we’d have all these leftovers. It was a nice little turnout and people got to meet Christopher and Evan and Nate! We got a lot of warm wishes and kind words. Nate’s principal, Sr. Carolyn, and teachers, Ms. Wozniak and Ms. Brady (also with Ms. Driscoll) came out. Thank you SAIC family for supporting us! I also got to catch up with some old friends which was nice. A special thanks to Auntie Ruby, Audrey’s mom, for getting the cafeteria for us. Thank you to Fr. Eugene at Epiphany Church. Thank you to Irma’s for opening on Sunday to provide us with food. Thank you to Lucky River on Monterey Ave. for donating all that food! Thank you Auntie Wilda for cooking and thank you, Jason’s dad for bringing food. And, thank you to the volunteers who came to help! I don’t need to name ya’ll to tell you how much I appreciate you guys – I hope you know. Sunday night we brought home about $1,000.

This week is almost over and I’m tired. It’s time to rest. ‘Til next time.

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“Do No Harm”

Posted by jenille610 on September 14, 2007

Yesterday, I accompanied Jason to the first part of his donor work-up.  In a nutshell, it was back-to-back appointments (with more to come) involving a blood draw, meeting with Cherie, living donor coordinator, CT scan, ultrasound, EKG, another blood draw, and chest X-ray.  Poor Jason KO’ed when we got home and I was pretty tired myself.  But when we came home to Chris-Chris and his bright smile, and to Evan and his lit-up eyes, and to Nate and his sweet hugs, my tiredness melted away.  Mom and Dad always say that: when they came home to their kids, they weren’t tired anymore.

In our meeting with Cherie, we spent an hour talking about the risks and complications of surgery.  Her take on it was based on the Hippocratic Oath: “do no harm”.  To take a healthy donor and subject them to surgery is counterintuitive to the oath but in our case, and other cases of living-related donations, it’s life saving.  And that was our attitude while being in that meeting: it’s going to save our son; let’s roll.  Infection, bile leaks, pain and discomfort, chance of liver transplant for the donor, and possible death could not waiver our souls – if Christopher needed a liver, it was going to be one of his parents first.  We loved our son before we met him and we’d give anything for him.

Today Jason called me with bad news.  According to the ultrasound, he had inherited a fatty liver.  It was difficult to know how much fat was present but the news got worse: Jason needed a liver biopsy next Weds.  He has a 50/50 chance of being Christopher’s donor.  I had the feeling that Jason wouldn’t be able to donate but I pushed it aside.

First thought, crap, I remember Christopher’s liver biospy when he was first diagnosed with biliary atresia.  Jason is in for a day of much pain.

Second thought, crap, I’m next.  If Jason isn’t able to donate, it’s going to be me.  Double crap, I need to lose over 30 pounds because my BMI is too high to donate. I’m in the zone now.  If I could lose weight for my wedding 2 years ago, I could definitely lose it again…now its just a matter of time….time we don’t have but nevertheless, it will be done.

Wish me luck.  I’m zipping my mouth now.

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Recap on Living Well Expo 2007 and Ballroom Benefit…Thanks for the support!

Posted by jenille610 on September 10, 2007

I’m exhausted and still recovering.  This weekend, we were at Living Well Expo 2007 in San Jose, CA fundraising for Christopher’s cause.

After a heavy day on Saturday, I felt like my legs were going to fall off!  I was so tired and I still had second shift when I got home.  Alina from Bay Area Stars (www.bayareastars.com) volunteered her time to give beautiful glitter tattoos to those who donated and they were a hit.  Thank you Alina and to Cheryl for believing in us!  Thanks to Bern and Justin for coming by!  And thank you Auntie Wilda and Auntie Zeny for taking care of the twins so that we could concentrate on fundraising this weekend!

I brought a crew on Sunday to help out; Jason, Nate and Auntie Zeny are great salespeople.  Yes, even shy-boy Nate is drumming up support for his beloved brother.  I’m so proud of him!

Just like Pistahan, this experience has taught me a lot about people.  Asking for donations seemed like one of my college projects – conclusions have been made from observation.

Thank you all who donated and to those who just heard me out.  Corny as it is, knowing is half the battle and just getting the word out is a lot for us.  We’re the lil fundraising that could.  We’re now $400 closer thanks to our San Jose event.  Hopefully, I survive the month….


Jason’s dad, Manuel Sr., hosted the Ballroom Dancing Benefit for Christopher on Saturday.  I was unable to make the event (reasons above) but Jason was able to go to make a thank you speech to those attending.  And it was success!  I heard the tables were full and the hard-core ballroom dancers were having a ball (no pun intended =P).  Jason’s sister, Girlie, and her cousins helped out  – thank you guys!  Thanks Mom for decorating the tables!  I don’t know how well we did yet but it looks promising.This week will be busy so stay tune!

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Busy, busy, busy….

Posted by jenille610 on September 6, 2007

It’s going to be a busy, busy, busy fundraising month and I’m stoked but so exhausted!

On the good note, we probably have just $10,000 to go before we reach our goal of $40,000.  I’m not too sure if they included the LandAmerica matching grants from my fellow friends across the country so who knows, we could be done right now!

In any case, please come out to support our efforts.  A lot of energy goes into planning and even if it’s not a monetary donation, the moral support means the world to us.  =)  Thanks in advance!


Christopher is doing really well being as normal as any other 15-month-year-old.  He’s somewhat steadily gaining weight but of course, the difference between him and his twin, Evan, is apparent.  No big changes healthwise.

Watching them play together last night made me realize how sad each one will be once Christopher is at UCSF.  Nate, in addition, is worrying about his brother NOW (he’s my old soul in a 5-year-old body).  Jason and I try to make the weekends family, quality time and sometimes we don’t even have a destination – just pack the kids in the car and drive.  Then again, that’s the story of my life – just go with it.

Like the old adage goes: You never appreciate what you have until it’s gone.  And we’re making sure we’re enjoying every sun drop, rain drop, etc. until we’re scheduled for surgery.  We’re trying to lead a normal life knowing the inevitable.  Corny but true, carp diem – seize the day because you never know what tomorrow brings.

On a more positive note, Jason’s donor work-up (1st part) appoinmentts start on Sept. 13th.  It entails a series of tests and interviews that last the whole day.  Then we come back again the week after for another round of “fun”.

Crossing my fingers and toes that Jason is healthy enough to be Christopher’s donor.  After all, my sweetie volunteered himself first just so I wouldn’t have to feel the pain of recovering.  That IS love.  =)

No, we don’t know what the future holds but we just have to stop worrying and live it with the ones we love.

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